5 Ways to Teach Your Kids to Stand Up for Themselves

Love has started kindergarten, which is different for all of us. She is in a school setting which she has not been in before. The relationships we had with her other caregivers were different. We set them out and selected them. School is different as we were told who would be her teacher. We selected the school based on some things that were important to us.

Standing Up for Yourself is a form of Self-Care.

Her first week of school we had an issue where another child touch her in an inappropriate way. She was very vocal with telling us about it and we told the teach. Then last week she had another incident with another child who said some things that were also inappropriate.

This is an adjustment for us and for her. She has not had these issues before. I will say that Love is vocal and will let adults know when she is uncomfortable. I take a lot of pride in that. However I still feel the need to make sure she knows how to stand up and speak up for herself at all times. I’m not only speaking about in school, but also at home, at dance, and any other situation.

5 Ways to Teach Your Kids to Stand Up for Themselves:

  • Listen: When your child comes to you with a problem or dispute listen.
  • Set The Example: Make sure you are standing up for yourself
  • Practice: Act it out. Work through example situations and practice how they can handle a situation
  • Watch & Observe: When your child has a dispute with other kids watch and see how they work it out. Intervene only when necessary
  • Teach Assertiveness: this can be done and not be considered rude.

It is hard for me to think about the many challenges that kids have to face today. I know that I must equip my kids to deal with issues that I have to deal with as an adult. This part of parenting is trying and difficult because we want our kids to live in a world full of rainbows and butterflies. Until reality sets in and you realize that these conversations are required.