Just like any relationship, friendships should be nurtured. Being a busy working mom it can be hard to maintain friendships due of the lack of time we get to spend together. Almost 90% of my friends are mothers and wives who have similar family responsibilities. Before the husbands, and kids we had the free time to spend together by hanging out and making weekly plans.
I don’t have a lot of friends, but the friendships I currently have I want to keep. That means I have to take steps to let my friends know how much they mean to me.
Here are some things I do to nurture my friendships:
1.Return calls and text messages – It may not be right away but I do my best to make sure I return calls and text messages. If I am busy and not able to answer the call I respond with a text message letting them know I see you calling, but I am unable to talk at this moment. I then add a reminder to my to-do list for the day, so when I go over my list at night if I have not returned the call or text I now have that reminder to do so.
2. Make a date – When I know I will have a free hour to spare I try to use that time and make a date with my friends. Because we have some of the same goals I can invite my friends to an exercise or yoga class. We are able to work on a goal, support each other in doing so, and to have a quick chat and catch up on some of the highlights of our day/week.
3. Send an encouraging note (text or handwritten note) – I have this new habit of “Do It Now” which means if I have time do it right now, if not write it down now so I can do it later. So when I am thinking about someone I will stop what I am doing and send a quick note to say I am thinking about them, wishing them a great day/week, or even to set up a date.4. Be the friend you want – This is true in all relationships give the things you want. Be the friend you want to have. Whatever you want from your friend you should be willing to give. I think one of the most important things for me in a relationship is having open communication, having someone to listen and give honest feedback.
4. Be an example of the friend you want – This is true in all relationships give the things you want. Be the friend you want to have. Whatever you want from your friend you should be willing to give. I think one of the most important things for me in a friendship is having open communication, having someone to listen and give honest feedback.
5. Be Proactive – Don’t wait for them to reach out to you. If you know a birthday is coming up, ask about plans so you can make plans to be present. Do things to show you are still interested in the friendship.
My friends are part of my tribe and it is important that they know how much I need and appreciate them, and hopefully I am showing my love.
Leave a comment and tell me how you nurture your friendships.